tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post649870837570735603..comments2023-11-05T00:24:21.549-07:00Comments on The Adventures of BaldyLocks -Cancer Blog: Parent FailBaldyLockshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17503554487494032312noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-45670105529820608882010-01-29T17:26:47.526-08:002010-01-29T17:26:47.526-08:00No fault of your own. Some kids just aren't me...No fault of your own. Some kids just aren't meant to be athletes. I have a son that is so much the polar opposite of myself, my husband and our daughter....he was raised no differently than his sister. He just prefers to not get dirty, stay inside and play video games, read, draw or be on a computer. <br /> <br />We are pretty active as a family and he just never wanted to be a part of it. I also felt like I did something wrong, but as it turns out, what I was doing wrong was nagging him all the time to do things he didn't enjoy. He's also 14 and I'm finally ok with it....'Cuz I Felt Like It!https://www.blogger.com/profile/06771721228319905882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-49277187795973036572010-01-24T21:23:30.536-08:002010-01-24T21:23:30.536-08:00:D
I don't have anything to say that hasn'...:D<br /><br />I don't have anything to say that hasn't already been said by the rest of your supporters here. I just wanted to pass along a smile.Teddy Started Ithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12321502088842462294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-3348660774826857662010-01-24T16:59:55.705-08:002010-01-24T16:59:55.705-08:00Hey girl. You know I know kids, and although this...Hey girl. You know I know kids, and although this seems like your kiddo is going to wither away, you are on the right track. The thing is you let him be who he wants to be, and now you are going to make it clear he needs to be healthy. He'll know that because it's important to you, it's important for him. You are doing all you can do, and that is all you can do. Thanks for being an awesome mom! Teachers love this s*^%!<br />-MMMiss Melanomahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09018657216901427823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-11547509653820342192010-01-23T14:04:36.772-08:002010-01-23T14:04:36.772-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-76209562316668249092010-01-23T11:56:48.422-08:002010-01-23T11:56:48.422-08:00It's so not true..none of it. I, like Kyra was...It's so not true..none of it. I, like Kyra was there. I was the neighbour, the personal witness to your life as a single parent and I was always in awe. How you managed to do all that you did with a smile on your face and three very active boys running around.I also happen to know and adore each of your boys for the wonderful, crazy and creative young men they are. I would drive by your house every day and laugh at the antics going on..because it was always a surprise. Usually it was the youngest son in the lead, at the top of the tree or racing down the hill at a scarey speed...and always with a huge devilish grin on his face. He may be your baby but he has always been a wild little gangster with no fear. He is also the first one to snuggle up with you and give you comfort when you needed it.Hes a good soul with a huge heart. Not every one is a high school jock, some of the worlds greatest muscians, artist, authors never played football or ran track. Don't believe the words of some high school coach who has no clue as to who or what your son is or had to endure. It's only because of your wonderful mothering that your boys have faced a horrible challenging time of you being ill and handled it so well. Your boys are doing great and baby "J" still has that devilish grin on his face.He will be just fine.Bohemian Chichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00506818188576712479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-51326790675740422952010-01-22T11:29:43.297-08:002010-01-22T11:29:43.297-08:00Ahhhh, I feel a lot better this morning. It's...Ahhhh, I feel a lot better this morning. It's weird when it feels like the world is going to cave in on you.<br /><br />I'm also feeling very lucky to have such supportive people here on my blog.<br /><br />Big hugs to everyone!Baldylockshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04005372680927488525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-37950270080123556672010-01-22T09:54:19.831-08:002010-01-22T09:54:19.831-08:00oh this got my back up. that coach is the one who ...oh this got my back up. that coach is the one who failed, he made assumptions about your son, you and your lives together. i HATE when people do that. it's arrogant and he's the fool for it.<br />i personally know you are a GREAT parent, i have seen you raise your kids for the past 9 years. they are all unique and wonderful individuals. yes, your son needs some physical activity, i know where you're coming from, it would be wonderful for him to find an activity he enjoys for pure physical fitness. the fact that he reads (i did the same) so much is wonderful, he has a curious and imaginative mind and it's obvious he's bright. he's also a teenager, and that's an awkward time in the best of times... cut yourself some slack. <br />he'll find his niche, or maybe not, maybe he's a renaissance soul - these types (including me) take a little longer to figure things out... but damn we're interesting people.<br />okay, uhm... getting off my soap box.Kyrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01190820551017604658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-50707818817524839652010-01-22T07:32:56.767-08:002010-01-22T07:32:56.767-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Susan Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12178330935523896363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-60002098312649976242010-01-22T07:32:46.732-08:002010-01-22T07:32:46.732-08:00I can't get over my feelings of jealousy that ...I can't get over my feelings of jealousy that youngest son is a bookworm.Susan Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12178330935523896363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-12711509211606119532010-01-21T23:59:13.014-08:002010-01-21T23:59:13.014-08:00My youngest is completely unathletic too and I don...My youngest is completely unathletic too and I don't worry about it at all. He takes after me. I put him in youth sports - he gamely tried them all but was at the bottom of the pack every time. He loves computers too, and spends a lot of time on his. But, he's not watching YouTube, he's making YouTube videos. He just did this amazing stop-motion thing. He is not randomly browsing - he's learning javascript. He's an A student in the International Baccalaureate program - one of the toughest programs in the country. He is going to go to a top 100 HS next year and be in IB. He gets PE in school and while I still hope he finds an athletic thing he enjoys doing that will last him for life - I don't think BIll Gates has missed it. :) I never have. And, aside from this cancer thing - I have spent my life looking and feeling healthier than most people around me. You don't have to be an athelete to be healthy. Just move a little bit and eat well. <br /><br />Don't beat yourself up - the trips to the library mean you are a good mom. He's just different than his brothers and that coach needs a lesson in civility.Annhttp://butdoctorihatepink.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-2537592359542108392010-01-21T21:25:25.779-08:002010-01-21T21:25:25.779-08:00I think the talk with the coach just hit a nerve t...I think the talk with the coach just hit a nerve today. Kind of weird when a coach laughs and says, "That's a joke", when I suggest what my son wants to take. I know he won't be in the Olympics but he wants to try something else and have some fun.<br /><br />I think the coach just had his, "Appropriate Response" button off.BaldyLockshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17503554487494032312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-65472637693064882252010-01-21T21:13:14.823-08:002010-01-21T21:13:14.823-08:00I would not worry. Soon he will begin chasing youn...I would not worry. Soon he will begin chasing young women (who are not related to him). Then he will change almost completely. Wait and see. You just have to let nature take its course (in this case).Jenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12667663863265921903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-9056273324114941052010-01-21T20:41:55.102-08:002010-01-21T20:41:55.102-08:00I'm sorry you're feeling the parenting blu...I'm sorry you're feeling the parenting blues. I have a story that I hope encourages you, even if it's just a little.<br /><br />Our son is 18 and has spent most of his time cooped up in his room with a book/notebook or keyboard in his lap for the past 4 years. Last year my husband and I had to accompany him to a musical performace at a venue where the crowd was 21 & over. It was the first time I witnessed him on stage being serious about his craft and I have to tell you I was floored. In his element all of the gangly, clumsy, awkwardness disappeared. He covered the stage with the mic in hand like a seasoned artist. The much older crowd had no idea he was 17 or that I was his mom-(much to my chagrin when the groupies arrived) He found his calling and I recognized it. It was amazing, as will be your time when it comes and your young son realizes or reveals his calling. Best.T.Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07288157852760931385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-48675724261346478152010-01-21T19:45:55.688-08:002010-01-21T19:45:55.688-08:00Some kids just don't like sports. I don't...Some kids just don't like sports. I don't. P.E. class was torture for me. Maybe he'll find a physical activity he likes, but at his age, he really needs to figure that out for himself.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04993713558062990610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-79176848683730807572010-01-21T17:23:47.848-08:002010-01-21T17:23:47.848-08:00Thanks for the reassurance, Neil. I don't hav...Thanks for the reassurance, Neil. I don't have any mold set out for him at all and I'm wondering if that's the problem. I want to encourage him in any direction he wants to go but there doesn't seem to be a direction.<br /><br />Everyone needs to be healthy and active and I don't want the poor kid to wither away. He has so much potential but my situation isn't helping him. I just want everything for my kids and right now I can't give them that. <br /><br />I suck.<br /><br />That's okay, by the way. Everyone has to suck sometime.BaldyLockshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17503554487494032312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726155289174009392.post-1929089531351304792010-01-21T16:46:55.152-08:002010-01-21T16:46:55.152-08:00did you ever stop to think that your not a failure...did you ever stop to think that your not a failure as a parent just because he didnt fall into the mold you had in kind for him? I didn't fall into the mold my parents had for me, like your youngest I out of step with what my parents thought I "should" be doing, but really I just did what I enjoyed doing most. you still a great parent to him by taking him to the library and book stores your encouraging him regardless. so what if hes a nerdy kid, there are lots of nerdy kids... he has brains not brawn that does not make any one kid better developed then the other. no need to be so hard on your self your a great caring mother that supports her kids in what ever way they need to be. Just be happy they are happy, safe, smart and most of healthy. Just because one child is an athlete does not mean the other is a lesser then the other. They are all individuals trying to find their way in life their place in the world... your youngest might not be in the olympics but he might be a noble prize winner one day. And your middle might not win any prizes for brains but he might be a star athlete... just be happy none of them are like your neighbors, selling drugs or even worse a customer of your neighbor... your kids are well rounded that is a lot to ask of children these days...<br />I wish i could step right across the nation in one giant step and tell you this stuff in person so you can see the sincerity in my eyes and voice when I tell you you a GREAT mother dont worry so much!!!<br />:)nawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16264649210788847286noreply@blogger.com